So I met with Jamie's probation officer on Friday afternoon. Geez, she was a tiny little thing and didn't look much older than 18 herself. Anyways, I told her all about Jamie and the things he's been doing. She said that she would be putting out a warrant for his arrest - at least it would be getting him off the streets. She also told us to call the police and have him arrested every time we saw him breaching his probation. It seems the more breach of probation charges he gets, the more likely the judge is to put him somewhere off the streets.
Saturday night rolls around and at 5 past 11, we go out looking for Jamie. And there he is, sitting at the bus stop smoking and kabitzing with two of his buddies. BT stands in the doorway of the bus shelter preventing him from leaving and I called the police again. Ten minutes later, two cruisers show up and they arrest Jamie and take him away. During the wait, Jamie is jovial and quite happy. He says last week when he was arrested, they took him to the police station, charged him and then drove him to the Salvation Army and let him go. So he was in custody last week for less than an hour. Jamie was convinced this was the same that would happen this time but this time they put him in handcuffs and REALLY searched him. I got a call from a police officer this morning at 7 am asking if I was going to bail Jamie out - to which I said "No, why would I have him arrested just to bail him out?". Seems they have to call me since Jamie is still a minor. Anyhow I got a call from the juvenile detention centre this afternoon, so at least Jamie will be sleeping inside for a few days, eating decent food and having showers. Hopefully, the judge won't let him out on his own recognisance this time.
It's a relief to get him off the street but I was feeling really really guilty when they were leading him away in handcuffs - no matter that he was laughing the whole time. I hope this is the last time I have to have him arrested before the "system" starts giving him some help - he'll accept advice and help from anyone but me. *sigh* Even one of the cops on Saturday night was telling me that our young offender laws have the kids laughing at the legal system and there just isn't much that the cops can do. We are hoping that the cops took us seriously on Saturday when we told them that we would be calling every night if we had to to get Jamie off the streets. I have to think of Katie and at this point, I dont' trust Jamie as far as I could throw him and I dont' want him anywhere NEAR her.
8 years ago

11 comments:
sounds like you did the right thing
I know you feel guilty, but you did the right thing. I don't know Jamie (hell, I really don't know YOU), but handcuffs seem kinda warranted. He gets a kick out of being an ass to you. It's about time you showed him that YOU are the mother and HE is the child. Period.
I'm proud of you, Lost. **HUG**
Hang in there! I know how hard this must be for you, I say I'll have no trouble with this, but when it's your own child, I have to think that I'd have my own doubts about doing it. In the end, feel good knowing that you made the right choice, not the easy one! *hugs*
don't feel guilty - you're doing what's best for your son. if you feel guilty, then he's 'winning', so as to speak.
Man, Tough Love is sooo hard isnt it? When I would not bail my SOn out of jail his friends were aghast!! Their parents did it for them. My son KNEW I would not. I raised him right, and when He was 18 I told him that from here on out, he was responsible for his actions. GADS ITS HARD
Lost--I agree wholeheartedly with what everyone else has said here. You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. I am glad they handcuffed him & kept him--he really needs to see his behavior isn't a joke. I hope he "gets it" soon, but as a teen that is unlikely since everything is a joke at this point. Hang in there, girl & don't give up. Know that a lot of us "stranger/friends" have your back & support you all the way!
Hugs, Michele
You did good!
It does sound like your legal system is similar to the one in my area. Only after they are bugged... and bugged... and bugged... does the Judge finally do something. It's not right, it's definitely not fair to anyone, and all it does is promote further similar conduct when the juvenile thinks they'll just be inconvienced for an hour or two.
I am so proud of you! I know this is very, very hard on you and BT but hang in there. This was a very good step. Keep stepping in this direction, no matter how many it takes. Hugs and good, positive thoughts out to you!
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It's hard to get through to kids sometimes that their behavior has consequences. Stick it out. You're trying to help him learn about how to have a real life. You're doing the right thing!
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