I got a phone call from Jamie's probation officer on Monday. His NEW probation officer I might add. Seems that even though he was supposed to report within 48 hrs of his last release he still hasn't. This new woman tells me that she is going to recommend that Jamie be placed somewhere for a while as he doesn't seem to be doing well on probation. We'll have to see how THAT works out.
Then not an hour later who should call me but Jamie himself. Seems he is living with his new girlfriend (who is 15) and her mother. Turns out he wants me to give him "his" baby bonus money. Actually, Child Tax Credit money - for anyone who isn't Canadian, this is money you get every month from the government (depending on yr income) to help with raising your children. This money only comes until the child hits 18 then it stops. Jamie will be 18 on July 11 so there is all of one month of this left. Jamie then puts the g/f's mom on the phone and by jeebus I let her have an earful. I told her chapter and verse the saga of Jamie - arrests, probation, stealing, vandalism and the peephole story. I'm doubting that Jamie will be there for very long but I wanted that woman to be going into having Jamie living in her home with eyes wide open. No doubt Jamie is unimpressed that I told her everything but HE called ME and then put me on the spot with this woman. Not that I'm giving him the baby bonus money - not after the money I've put out on repairing and replacing things he's stolen or broken. He can just dream on. This woman even wanted ME to replace all of Jamie's ID - the ID that he took with him when he left my home and then lost. Yeah right - like I'm going to do the birth certificate waiting game AGAIN.
HOLY CRAP it's been hot here lately. I've just been staying in and sitting in front of the fan wishing I lived in the far far north.
I've got a lead on a new apartment, I just need to get down to Oshawa and fill in an application and view the place. Keep your fingers crossed.
8 years ago
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Fingers crossed, a new apartment would be great - a breakaway from all this Jamie drama.
- Virginia Gal
ooooohhh, I am so upset for you. You know how Samantha is, I keep worrying about the day some mother is going to phone me and have that sort of conversation. I worry either it will upset me so badly that I'll let them treat me like dirt, or I'll go bananas and either get arrested or have the woman think i'm REALLY mental.
Please, tell more of what was said? Right, like you should be responsible for his "grown-up" life whereby he's diddling a little girl? (sorry, my own experiences here played in that comment). He's proven time and again that you cannot help him, why should you replace his ID? He's the ass that lost it!
You're looking at a place? I'll be wishing and hoping that you'll get it. Not cuz I wanna see you leave, but because I think Jamie is best left behind. & that hurts me to say, since I used to be the love of his life! *laughs*
fingers crossed for your new place.
Good thoughts your way on a new place. Sounds like that would be wonderful!
Sorry to hear about Jamie who has yet to learn anything about anything yet. Stay strong!
Blogeois
Kids, eh?
As you know, I've had (and have) shared much of the same crap with my oldest and he is living back home now. He's 26. It was apparent that he had severe depression but you can lead a horse to water but......Success only came in this last year when he hospitalized himself. Shortly thereafter, while visiting friends, he was attacked and stabbed. Then, to top things off, the prescribed medication caused type I insulin dependent diabetes. All of this "bad" shit, worked for his good as he realized that the only safe place, with those that seek his best interest, have been here all along. He only needed to realize it.
.......Here.......relax, breathe in and out deeply. Envision a light translucent mist gathering about your face. Breathe it all in and release slowly. That is my healing gift and well wishing that you get the apartment or some other needed blessing!!!
Be well, Lost!
Someday....maybe someday....he will come around and make amends to you. I just made an amends to someone after 40 years!! I stole some perfume from her purse when I was 15! I see some miracles in AA and I also see some tragedies. I pray he will be a miracle.
New apt sounds great, moving can be so cathartic (sp).
You did the hard, yet responsible thing to do w/ the g/f's mother. Do you think his PO will do something before he turns 18? What happens after he turns 18?
MY legs are crossed. Does that count?
:-)
I honestly don't know how it is you haven't gone completely barmy after this many years of Jamie and his nonsense. Let's hope a new place will afford you a new start. sheesh.
geez, I guess things haven't calmed down. how do i keep my kids from growing up?
Your doing the right thing with Jamie.Tough love is the best kind and as hard as it is in the beginning,the rewards will be there in the future.One day he will be able to appreciate you.
Good luck with the new apt:)
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