Well it's all over but the sadness.
Yesterday was Samantha's funeral. It was a lovely simple ceremony with many many supporters for Mark and Heather. I spent three days with them last week trying to help and not get in the way. I wanted to help them so badly, just do anything that would take some of the burden off their shoulders but also trying really hard not to intrude. It's that terrible grief, another presence in the room that is so strong you can almost touch it.
Heather is out of the hospital now and recovering physically but oh the sadness, just soul wrenching heartache. Rebuilding a normal life is going to be so hard but they have each other and their love is so strong, they have family who love them and friends who would do anything for them. Katie and I are going to spend a few days with Heather in a couple of weeks and we are going to do silly things. Girly stuff, painting toenails, facials, possibly dying hair just for the hell of it. I'm hoping that the sheer mindlessness of it all will give Heather a little bit of normal at least for a little while. *sigh* Sad is very tiring.
8 years ago
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I hope she knows that there are many other supporters and shoulders who were there in spirit, if not in physical body.
You're so sweet helping and doing what you can.
*bighugsforlost*
Thanks for the update, dear
Sadness is a truly terrible thing.
But do you know what? The sadness fades. And when it fades, it leaves behind warm memories.
And with the warm memories, there comes warm thoughts and feelings.
And with the warm thoughts and feelings come comfort and smiles.
Slowly, at first. But they will come. The sadness will pass.
Nothing is ever forgotten. But the pain begins to fade. And once it's faded enough, then comes the most wonderful, cherished memories.
I'm very sorry for their (and your) loss.
I'm certain that you being there is more comfort than you know.
Even sadness fades in time.
Until then, thank God you're there.
YOU ARE BACK!!!
YOU'RE BACK YOU'RE BACK YOU'RE BACK!
I missed you.
And I am so sorry that there is sadness going on right now in your life ... happiness will return though. It always does.
They are lucky to have a friend like you who is THERE for them.
I think the day of craziness is a great idea.
HUGS
Wendster
You are a good person Lost - when a person is in saddness, they spin often into depression and think they don't need or want anyone around, but they do. It is good of you to be there and to keep her busy.
It will be hard to go back to life, and it will never be the same, but InshAllah, she will be able to find some happiness.
profound sadness one can literally touch.
Did you get LOST again?
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